Sometimes people have to learn on their own.
The other day, I was talking to a friend about his recent breakup that he was going through.
I told him to take his time — even though it would suck to be alone and try to heal, I told him don’t hook up with anyone because you’ll do that out of missing your ex.
He listened and agreed with me at the time of our talk. Later though, he decided to hook up with someone hoping it would help with the moving on process.
He talked to me afterwards and said you were right. I should’ve listened to you.
I shouldn’t have, but I needed to know on my own no matter what anyone else told me.
I said to him, I totally understand.
No matter what advice you give, the reality is sometimes people have to just learn the lesson on their own.
And that’s fine. As a friend, parent, or support network, you can’t get mad.
You just have to know some people need real life experience to try and test their theories and will learn from that rather than “wisdom” from others.