Life advice is always easier to give from a 3rd party perspective than it is to actually execute from a 1st party perspective.
The other day, I was talking to a friend, she’s been going through a breakup.
My advice was to start to limit her contact with her ex to start the process for both of them to move forward in a different direction.
She said, I know you’re right, but I know I won’t actually do what you’re saying, at least for a little bit. My ex and I are still texting and will probably hang out soon.
I think the important thing for her and everyone in this position to understand is, we’re humans.
It will always be easier for me in the 3rd party, non-emotional, no stake perspective to say the correct thing: stop communicating and don’t hang out with him.
Actually executing is that is hard.
Most people who breakup do have an on/off period where they do hang out for a period of time.
It’s natural because you had an emotional connection with that person and you’re not sure if breaking up is the right thing to do for both of you.
Give yourself grace if you’re not going through with the “correct” life advice answer of how you’re living life. We’re all human.